Say What You Need to Say

On a scale of 1-10, how comfortable are you saying what you need to say?

For some, it’s a challenge to speak unapologetically.  

It was for me, for a long time.

And . . . it’s not our fault.

For many of us, we weren’t taught to express ourselves in a healthy and honest way. Social conditioning taught us to “be good girls” and “not hurt anyone’s feelings.”

Without questioning it, this limiting belief has been adopted and accepted - for generations - and now taints all areas of life including personal and business relationships.  

Having grown up in a boisterous Italian family, on Sunday afternoons food was served and loud voices would fill the house. I was the quiet one. 

I didn’t know it then, but I developed listening skills and learned to read body language and energy. I also learned to hold back and refrain from being assertive.

Truthfully, as a kid, it didn’t feel safe to express myself.

In school though, I could raise my hand and be called on and be heard, without having to compete with louder voices.

It’s a human need to be seen and heard.

It would take years to get comfortable using my voice. Healing practices, divorce and providing doula support helped me let go of fear and express myself unapologetically.  

The Center of Communication

The throat chakra is the center of communication and the conduit between heart and mind. When expression is blocked, it frustrates, limits and diminishes the other energy centers as well.   

If you’re having trouble expressing yourself, if you’ve ever felt like your throat is blocked, safe practices, like vocal toning, can help you find freedom.

Pregnancy and Birth

Learning to use your voice unapologetically during pregnancy is key, for labor and birth and for raising children. Now’s the time to let go of self-consciousness.

Because the throat canal is connected to the birth canal is connected the pelvic floor, making low, guttural sounds during labor helps keep the system open and the body relaxed. Laughing and smooching during labor is super helpful too. It helps release stress hormones.

 As the foundation of your family of your family, it’s your responsibility communicate effectively to advocate for yourself and child.

To raise a child who’s free to express herself, isn’t it time to start using your voice?

Getting to the Root

 If it’s been difficult to express yourself, NOW’s the time to take action.

 First, know this: introspection can be uncomfortable and cultivating awareness and healing is a process. It requires courage and commitment.

When you’re willing to honestly examine your patterns, though and look at where and why you learned to stifle yourself, you can begin to identify conditioned and limiting beliefs. Then, in a climate of safety, you can rewire your subconscious and consciously replace old beliefs with ones that align with your values.

Doesn’t it make sense to do your inner work before starting a family?  

Pregnancy is an ideal time, a sacred period, to clarify your thoughts and values and purify your heart and behaviors.

Remaining quiet or reticent is no longer an option.

 To learn more about how to free up your voice, click the button below to schedule a call with Stephanie today.